November 2010 archive

Need a wife? Try a life coach instead

Many of my girfriends have commented that they need a wife. No, they aren’t talking about same sex marriage. They are happy with their husbands. They just need someone to help them do all the things wives stereotypically do. For most of us, we have to find a way to “just do it.” But anyone that knows me knows that the idea of living life by just gutting it out is not the way I want to roll.

Meeting with a life coach helps you to come to a place of balance in your life. It can help you learn to fit in what you want and need to do alongside what you have to do. Some time ago I took a class to become certified in life coaching. As I have begun to go through the process step-by-step with people it has been wonderful. It works. Read about it below. If getting a wife isn’t going to happen for you, and you are intrigued, contact me.

The Lifecoaching Process

Session 1 – Interview Session
This session will last approximately 2-hours. The coach asks the client a series of questions about several different areas of their life. The client evaluates their present satisfaction in each of these areas.

Session 2 – Vision Session
Within a week you meet for a second one-hour session. The client will receive their Life Vision Statement prepared by the life coach from the information discussed in Session One. This statement describes your life as if all the areas discussed previously are exactly as the client desires them to be. The client and coach review the statement together. The statement is taken home and read at least three times daily for the next week.

Session 3 – Strategy Session
In one week, the client and coach will meet again for about one and a half hours. The client will select one area of life that will be the area of focus. Strategies will be discussed to move the client from where they are to where they desire to be. The client takes the plan home to implement.

Session 4 – Evaluation Session
This session takes place one month after the strategy session. Progress is reviewed. At this time the client makes a decision. New strategies can be developed if more progress is needed in the area of focus, or a new area of focus can be selected. If a new area is selected, the coach and client will strategize in this area. The client may also choose to end the coaching sessions until more help is needed.

The cost for the four-session program is $125.00. If the client wishes to continue, sessions 3 & 4 will be repeated in different life areas at the cost of $55.00 for the two hour session.

In Heaven there is no beer.


In heaven there is no beer, that’s why we drink it here.

Ok, I’m not really a beer drinker, but isn’t this an interesting thought? Kind of the antithesis of how I think about heaven. I think of heaven as the place I won’t HAVE to do things that I HAVE to do here on Earth. Surely there won’t be bills to pay or laundry to do in heaven. But the author of the beer quote looks at things the opposite way. What will we not GET to do in heaven that we GET to do here on Earth?

Will there be money in heaven? Probably not, so you won’t have to pay bills, but you also won’t GET to bless people financially. The holiday season is coming up. The Rescue Mission needs money to feed the homeless a decent Thanksgiving dinner. The angel trees will be in every mall, and so will we. To be honest, in the past I have felt this all a burden. Who SHOULD I give to? I HAVE to bring coats for the coat drive. I’m reframing this year. I GET to help others with my financial resources. I won’t GET to do that in heaven, so I’m going to enjoy the opportunity to do now.

What else will we not GET to do in heaven? We won’t GET the chance to forgive people. We won’t GET to love our enemies. I doubt we’ll have a chance to take care of orphans and widows. Will we be able to cast our anxiety upon Him? I doubt we’ll have any, so I’m going to take advantage of my opportunity to do that. I won’t GET to pray for people or encourage them in their spiritual growth, at least I don’t think so. I don’t think that will be needed. I GET to do that now!

In our book, Unwritten Travels, we have a challenge to consider yourself a philanthropist when you serve others instead of a slave. Reframing something can have an amazing impact if we can remember to do it. So, this holiday season, reframe. Be thankful at Thanksgiving. Be thankful for all your blessings, especially all the blessings that we GET to be a part of for the rest of our earthly lives.